Every once in a while, there’s a question that even the most outgoing of individuals find uncomfortable discussing with a gynecologist. While it’s normal to feel that way out of fear of judgment, most gynecologists will tell you that these topics come up regularly and are vital to ensure that you are in good reproductive and vaginal health. Here are some of the most frequently asked “uncomfortable” questions at the gynecologist’s office:

Should I groom my pubic hair before my visit?
If it’s your first time visiting a gynecologist, or you’re meeting a new one, it can be a very intimidating experience and cause you to ponder whether you need to groom your pubic hair in advance. Instead of thinking of what gynecologists think about your grooming practices, it is best to go as you are as long as you feel comfortable and clean.

Does everything look normal?
Oftentimes, you end up thinking about how your vulva looks and how it compares to others. This is completely normal, but it is vital to remember that vulvas come in various shapes and sizes and look different for everyone. If you notice abnormal growth or abrupt changes, it may be advisable to talk about them with your gynecologist.

Is vaginal discharge normal?
The vagina is a self-cleaning organ, making discharge a completely regular part of its cleansing cycle. The color and consistency of your discharge change throughout your menstrual cycle and may even increase during pregnancy due to changes in hormone levels. However, if you begin to notice changes in your discharge pattern or an odor, it may be a sign of infection that you should have evaluated professionally.

Why does my vaginal discharge smell?
The vagina is a complex ecosystem of bacteria that can never fully be odorless. This is also impacted by one’s activity levels, lifestyle, and choice of undergarments. While some smells are entirely normal, it may be time to speak to your gynecologist if you notice a pungent, fishy smell around your vulva.

I have been thinking about birth control. What should I get?
When it comes to birth control, there are a lot of options in the market, such as hormonal and non-hormonal intrauterine devices (IUDs), short-acting hormonal methods such as patches and vaginal rings, barriers such as condoms, tubal ligation, vaginal pH regulator gels, and more. If you are keen on looking at birth control, your gynecologist is the best person to ask. Based on your healthcare history and future plans, they will help you pick an option that works best for you.

How do I talk to my partner about sexually transmitted infections (STIs)?
This is a tough subject to broach due to the stigma associated with it, but it is important to discuss it. Speaking to your gynecologist about how to normalize this conversation with your partner can help. Generally, gynecologists will recommend being honest and open about any chronic STIs (such as herpes or HIV) that may affect your partner. You must also discuss when you were last checked, and the tests you underwent. This also helps establish trust among partners and reduces the risk of contracting or transmitting STIs.

Remember, no question is too silly when it comes to your health and well-being, so be sure to ask your gynecologist all your doubts without worry!